Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Finally, a Better Option

It’s hard to fathom how many same sex couples actually go through all of the trials and tribulations that I talk about here and then some, just in the hopes of starting a family.  I don’t want this blog post to be salesy in anyway, but I do feel it’s important to share with you a little about my background and how I got to where I am today, personally and professionally.

I am a 33 year old lesbian woman that “came out” when I was 21 years old.  I had a later start in my career as a lesbian.  When I graduated college, the only experience I had with a girl was with a best friend of mine.  Imagine my shock when I realized I actually enjoyed being with girls more than boys.  My “coming out” is another story in itself but I’ll save that for another time.  Once I was able to admit to myself that I was in fact a lesbian, I knew my life would be quite different from what I had originally thought.  There wasn’t going to be the traditional wedding or family like I had intended…or would there be?   When I came out, it was already over 10 years ago.  It’s amazing to me to look back and see how much things have changed (for the better) since then.  Gay marriage was not recognized when I came out, you couldn’t comfortably walk down the street holding hands with your partner, and forget options for having kids…those were still in the ice ages.   But things have definitely come a longggggg way since then.  There are currently 19 states that allow and recognize gay marriage.  Hell, there was the first transgender woman on the cover of Time Magazine this past month!  We are making progress!  

 Over those 10 years, I spent my entire professional career working for my family business, which specializes in women’s reproductive health.  The family business, Sepal Reproductive International, distributes Assisted Reproductive Technologies (ART)/devices and tests to doctors and patients all over the world.  AKA, we help couples make babies in a clinical sense.  I take pride in the fact that I have spent countless hours on the phone with women and couples, guiding them, giving friendly advice, or even just providing a listening ear to the emotionally taxing experience of trying to conceive.  I was recently asked in a radio interview if I take my work home with me or if I can leave it all behind?  This was a very simple question for me.  When I talk to a patient on the phone, it is impossible for me not to become invested in them and in their successes and failures.  Their success is my success, and I am constantly making myself available after work hours and thinking about these people all the time, hoping and wishing they have success in their journey of trying to conceive.  Now let me bring this all full circle for you…

As I mentioned, I came out when I was 21 years old.  At that time, I was not really thinking seriously about having a family of my own or how I would have a family when that time actually came.  Well, as you have read, the time did in fact come for me and my wife and you have seen how difficult and horrible the options we had to try and conceive at home were.  Being in the industry of helping couples get pregnant and also being a lesbian woman, I clearly had realized how few options there were for same sex couples to try and get pregnant at home and not have it be the most clinical and medicinal experience ever.  I have always had the desire to create something better for same sex couples and then one day, after another insemination of my wife with a damn needless syringe, I decided to take action.  I was sick and tired of everything my wife and I were going through and not to mention, my only involvement was squirting a stupid syringe into her vagina…NOT romantic or sexy at all.  I didn’t want to have to tell my kid someday that mommy and mama made him or her with a syringe.  It just didn’t seem right.  And the wheels began turning…
I have been told a dozen times how many people had the idea to make a dildo that would allow same sex couples to have sex and allow them to try and get pregnant so when I started researching it and saw that no one had actually ever created it, I was shocked and stunned.  I didn’t invent the most earth shattering thing like a Chia Pet or the Sham Wow (insert laughter), however, I did decide that it was time for someone to actually make this inseminating dildo a reality.  So I did, and the birth of The Semenette® happened. 

My pride and joy :)
The Semenette® was invented and designed to be a novelty sex toy that would allow couples to have intercourse and also mimic an ejaculation, therefore allowing them to use this to try and get pregnant at home in a romantic, private, fun and affordable way.  It was everything and more that I had wanted for my wife and I all along.  I never in my wildest dreams thought I would be able to make this idea a reality and here I am today, a year and a half later with my new business, my product The Semenette®, and most importantly, my greatest success story to date, my daughter.

I continue to work for the family business while I also run my new venture and promote my product, The Semenette®.  I have an even greater appreciation and passion for what I do.  I used to be able to say that I provided women and couples with advice and the medical tools to help them get pregnant but the doctors were always the ones that made it happen and now, I am beyond proud to say that I am providing something that women and couples can use in the privacy of their own home to try and conceive.  What makes it even better is seeing the many success stories along with my own.  Being able to give people something that helps their dream of having a family come true is the most rewarding thing in the world.  

I recently did a radio interview that I mentioned earlier in this entry and I welcome you to check it out.  It’s my favorite interview thus far and will give you more insight into my life and my story about The Semenette®.  You can listen to it here,  You can also check out my website,  It is my ultimate goal and hope that women and couples will be able to use The Semenette® not only to try and conceive but to have a little fun in the process as well.  Lord knows we all could something better than a damn turkey baster!    

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