Welcome! Here you will find alot of laughs, possibly some tears and lots of stories about the trials and tribulations of being a same sex couple trying to make a baby. From conception to insemination, to peeing on sticks and picking up baby daddy baby batter, I am going to share the nitty gritty on all things lesbian, all things baby and all things Semenette(R), my invention that miraculously became a reality. I hope you enjoy reading my stories as much as I enjoyed living them.
Wednesday, May 14, 2014
Our First Trip to the Doctor
Tick Tock Tick Tock
A lot of
people say, “timing is everything”. When
it comes to trying to conceive, that couldn’t be more true. Timing really is everything in more ways than
you can probably imagine. There’s timing
of your period, timing of your cervical mucus, timing of your ovulation, timing
of your inseminations, I could go on and on.
When trying to conceive, it feels like the clock is often your worst
enemy. Waiting for the damn results of
your OPK’s or pregnancy tests feels like what could be an eternity. Is it a positive or a negative? The clock just seems to tick so slowly in
anticipation. After receiving a bunch of
negative pregnancy test results, my wife and I began to question so many
things. Was something wrong with
her? Was it me not inseminating her
properly? Was our timing off? Was the sperm ok? So many questions and not enough answers we
could provide with our resources at home.
So, as much as we didn’t want to, we decided it was time to go consult
with a doctor. We had come to the
realization that if we wanted to make this happen, we needed to make sure
everything was ok with my wife and make sure there was no other medical reasons
preventing us from getting pregnant. We
were not going to commit to any inseminations with the doctor, as we were dead
set on doing this at home, even if it was with a turkey baster or needless
syringe. So, off to the baby doc we go.
It looks as bad as it actually feels.
I will say
this much, going to the doctors office for any kind of anything isn’t fun. Its just all around emotionally taxing,
invasive and unpleasant. My wife and I
were told that if we were going to do a fertility consultation/workup, we would
have to commit to testing for the duration of a month. Luckily, our insurance covered this part…the
only part. The first visit we were given
a ton of information about IUI’s and IVF and all of the things we were not
interested in. The doctor was nice but
we weren’t feeling this whole medicinal experience already. They advised us that they would monitor my
wife’s menstrual cycle, her ovulation, how many eggs she produced, and do a lot
of blood work. Basically, my wife needed
to prepare to be poked and prodded all over.
They did some initial blood work on that day (I believe they took something like 7 vials of blood from her) and told my wife to come
back in a week between the hours of 6am-8am for some more fun stuff.
So, not only did she have to get poked and prodded, she had to get up at
an ungodly hour. I wouldn’t let her go
alone so we would both proceed to get up at 5:30am on 4 separate occasions and
drive 35 minutes to get blood work. Good
clearly have my complaints about the doctor, I will say this much, they did
help us uncover a few things going on that may have been factors in our ability
to get pregnant. The blood work revealed
a few things that were actually quite a shock to us. First, my wife found out that she had
hypothyroidism. When I heard the doctor
say it, I was repeated in my mind, “hypowhaaaaaaaat”? Then he explained that she had low estrogen
levels as well. Luckily, both things
were very easily treated with some medication.
My wife had good eggs, which was huge and there were no other
indications telling us that we would not be able to get pregnant. PHEW. Huge weight lifted. However, the final bit of news that was
uncovered was a bit scarier. The doctor said
that my wife was a carrier of cystic fibrosis.
This meant that if our donor was a carrier, there was a very high chance
that the baby would be born with CF.
Very scary to think about, especially not knowing if our donor was a
carrier or not. Thankfully, we had our
do some genetic testing which revealed he was NOT a carrier! PHEW AGAIN!
month worth of visits to the doctor, they “recommended” that we do IUI’s with
them. They proceeded to explain that
since we were a same sex couple, we would have to do 6 IUI’s that would not be
covered by insurance before insurance would kick in. They then mentioned that each IUI would cost
approximately $1500 per try, and that did not include lab fees. Yeah, no thanks. The other thing that was troubling is that
Massachusetts is one of the only states to provide full coverage of IVF for
patients, that is, unless you are a same sex couple. Don’t even get me started on how unjust and
unfair that is. My wife and I end up going back to a different
doctor and I will explain that story later on… but don’t forget I mentioned
this now. You will learn why later.
You need a whole lot of this...
To get this.
I feel like
I got all serious on you this week.Next
week is all about head lamps and head stands.You won’t want to miss it.Until
then, happy baby making!